Planning a Funeral

After a loved one passes away there's no time to hide yourself under a blanket and just absorb the pain. There are many things that have to be attended to right away. Maybe that's a good thing because it doesn't allow you to wallow in your grief.

Funeral arrangements must be made and the funeral homes are expert in leading you through these arrangements with a minimum of hassle. They know how to make it all run smoothly and their staff is well trained in showing the proper respect and kindness.

There are flowers to be purchased and, in my daughter's case, she chose to shop for the perfect urn for her husband's ashes. She and her husband's family have also been putting together a photo display of her husband's life. These are difficult days for the whole family but by working together and grieving as a family we'll at least make it through the funeral in one piece.

There is also food to order and prepare because our custom is to feed the mourners after the funeral. Not until later in the evening, when all of the mourners have said their last goodbyes, will my daughter finally begin the healing process. There is no hurrying it...it will take as long as it takes. It's something that no-one else can share in or relieve the pain of. It will be done alone and in due time.