Comedian, Steve Harvey, is a funny man but he's also a well spoken man to explain how men think. I stumbled upon today's show and heard him speak about how women give up their "cookies" way too fast and the reason they shouldn't (from a man's perspective). Interesting!
He claims that women are missing an opportunity to take time to get to know the man they will honor with their "cookies". So many women complain about how many of the men in their lives have turned out to be dogs but they carry some of the blame for not getting to know those men before giving them their "cookies".
My generation knew this intuitively. With women these days becoming stronger and grabbing the freedom they deserve, some have taken it the wrong way and undervalued themselves and what they really are. A woman is not a toy, something to be used casually and then walked away from. A woman who truly values herself should not hand herself over to someone who doesn't deserve her. And it takes a bit of time to find out if he is worthy of her.
Steve Harvey recommends the 90 day wait but that seems a little long. You could be with a man for 90 years and still not know him well so my way of thinking is to be with him long enough to witness how much he respects you, how much kindness he shows to others, and how honest he is. That might be all you ever learn about the man you choose but he could still surprise you.
One little old lady on Steve's show said she is currently on the 20 year wait but that's okay, too. Better than offering your "cookies" to a sleaze bag!
Thursday, January 30, 2014
Sunday, January 26, 2014
10 Pound Loss
I am so happy! I weighed myself this morning (3 days early) and discovered I've lost a full 10 pounds in the 9 1/2 weeks I've been using Sensa. Because the weight is coming off slowly and I'm developing better eating habits, I have hope that this weight will stay off...with much more to follow. The Sensa is a tool to use but I also have to eat more sensibly, too, and I have to say it hasn't been difficult.
I'll be seeing my doctor for bloodwork when I get home in April and I'm hoping the weight loss will help in keeping diabetes at bay so that I don't need to take medication for it. Regardless, I'll continue with the Sensa diet because it has been good for me.
Something I've discovered this time around is that it's helped not to have given up both fries and potato chips at the same time. I haven't had a potato chip in the past 10 weeks and haven't missed them or craved them. I have had fries occasionally but usually find I can't eat them all. I have fruit, crackers or yogurt inbetween each meal, too, and that is what we're supposed to do...not starve ourselves. It doesn't matter how long it takes to reach a comfortable weight as long as my weight doesn't skyrocket on me. I've heard of others on Sensa that this happened to but I'll bet they also went back to their old and bad eating habits, too.
Oh yes, Shelley convinced me to have the chemical peel offered by her dermatologist neighbor. I'll stay at Shelley's house for 3-4 days while doing it just for my own peace of mind. I'm still scared to death but am putting my faith in the dermatologist who seems to know what he's doing. My own at home seems a little scatterbrained so no matter what I do, it might not be the right decision. I'll report the whole process in this blog.
Enough for now...
I'll be seeing my doctor for bloodwork when I get home in April and I'm hoping the weight loss will help in keeping diabetes at bay so that I don't need to take medication for it. Regardless, I'll continue with the Sensa diet because it has been good for me.
Something I've discovered this time around is that it's helped not to have given up both fries and potato chips at the same time. I haven't had a potato chip in the past 10 weeks and haven't missed them or craved them. I have had fries occasionally but usually find I can't eat them all. I have fruit, crackers or yogurt inbetween each meal, too, and that is what we're supposed to do...not starve ourselves. It doesn't matter how long it takes to reach a comfortable weight as long as my weight doesn't skyrocket on me. I've heard of others on Sensa that this happened to but I'll bet they also went back to their old and bad eating habits, too.
Oh yes, Shelley convinced me to have the chemical peel offered by her dermatologist neighbor. I'll stay at Shelley's house for 3-4 days while doing it just for my own peace of mind. I'm still scared to death but am putting my faith in the dermatologist who seems to know what he's doing. My own at home seems a little scatterbrained so no matter what I do, it might not be the right decision. I'll report the whole process in this blog.
Enough for now...
Friday, January 24, 2014
Toronto Mayor...Why?
I can't for the life of me understand why the great city of Toronto can't fire an inept, drunken, humiliating mayor. If he was in the employ of any other business he would have been thrown out on his ass after the first drunken episode but there are unfair laws on the books that prohibit firing this imbecile unless he is arrested for his antics. How unfair is this to the citizens of Toronto who are held hostage by this drunken sot who supposedly leads their city?
The rules and laws protecting elected officials who dishonor their post must be changed.
The rules and laws protecting elected officials who dishonor their post must be changed.
Thursday, January 23, 2014
I'm Back
Blogspot has been coming up weird on my computer for the last while so I gave up blogging until it straightened out. It has.
I've been happily busy in the last couple of weeks with a bus trip to Biloxi where I lost most of my money and, I think, caught this doozy of a cold I'm experiencing right now. I usually only get one cold a year but this one is the second in 4 months. I've stayed home since Tuesday and will cancel Friday morning coffee so I don't pass the germs on to anyone else. It might be too late for poor Sylvia because she has a sore throat now. I'm coughing myself silly but there does seem to be hope on the horizon because I'm feeling a little stronger right now than I have all week.
I hate being under the weather. It interferes with all my fun activities and the socializing I take part in here in Florida. I don't dare go out among these old folk or I might pass off germs that could kill them!
A couple of weeks ago, Jo taught us how to knit those frill scarves (easy!) so I've dropped the Swedish weaving for a while in order to make them. I have one made so far for an Alvarez and will make 6 in total for my 3 granddaughters and my 3 daughters. Jo said she can make one in an hour...well, let me tell you that it takes me about 2 days to make one. They are easy, though. I'm thinking that I enjoy making them enough to bring some yarn home to make them for my granddaughters-in-law, too.
We had fun in Biloxi...gambling, eating, and having a side trip to New Orleans. All of this cost me $185 and I got back about $25 in free play at the casinos and $49 in food vouchers. I would have gotten a bit more but I didn't have photo I.D. with me. I thought my health card was in with my out-of-country health insurance papers but it wasn't. Stupid me.
The weather is cool here these days but hasn't reached freezing at night yet. I pity the frozen north! So many of my friends have put their trailers up for sale and I really wonder how they'll be able to stand the frigid winters up north after spending many winters in Florida. Age is usually the deciding factor when snowbirds sell out and stay up north. They often can't take the long drive anymore. I still love it but my day will come.
Anyway, life is good here and I'm still having fun...or will again once my cold is gone.
I've been happily busy in the last couple of weeks with a bus trip to Biloxi where I lost most of my money and, I think, caught this doozy of a cold I'm experiencing right now. I usually only get one cold a year but this one is the second in 4 months. I've stayed home since Tuesday and will cancel Friday morning coffee so I don't pass the germs on to anyone else. It might be too late for poor Sylvia because she has a sore throat now. I'm coughing myself silly but there does seem to be hope on the horizon because I'm feeling a little stronger right now than I have all week.
I hate being under the weather. It interferes with all my fun activities and the socializing I take part in here in Florida. I don't dare go out among these old folk or I might pass off germs that could kill them!
A couple of weeks ago, Jo taught us how to knit those frill scarves (easy!) so I've dropped the Swedish weaving for a while in order to make them. I have one made so far for an Alvarez and will make 6 in total for my 3 granddaughters and my 3 daughters. Jo said she can make one in an hour...well, let me tell you that it takes me about 2 days to make one. They are easy, though. I'm thinking that I enjoy making them enough to bring some yarn home to make them for my granddaughters-in-law, too.
We had fun in Biloxi...gambling, eating, and having a side trip to New Orleans. All of this cost me $185 and I got back about $25 in free play at the casinos and $49 in food vouchers. I would have gotten a bit more but I didn't have photo I.D. with me. I thought my health card was in with my out-of-country health insurance papers but it wasn't. Stupid me.
The weather is cool here these days but hasn't reached freezing at night yet. I pity the frozen north! So many of my friends have put their trailers up for sale and I really wonder how they'll be able to stand the frigid winters up north after spending many winters in Florida. Age is usually the deciding factor when snowbirds sell out and stay up north. They often can't take the long drive anymore. I still love it but my day will come.
Anyway, life is good here and I'm still having fun...or will again once my cold is gone.
Tuesday, January 07, 2014
Sexual Harrassment
When I was a young woman, I was sexually and publicly harrassed by complete strangers, on an almost daily basis. I remember the unwanted catcalls, the unwanted gestures, the unwanted comments made as I simply walked down a public street. I remember the fear it struck in my heart as I worried the harrassers might actually touch me physically. I remember wondering why these men (or boys) believed they had the right to talk to me like this. I remember the feeling of helplessness and anger.
As an elderly woman, I sometimes breathe a sigh of relief that this doesn't happen to me any more but then I realize that those same things are still happening to young women today and I feel sympathy, disgust, worry, and sadness that not much has changed in this world.
Most parents are able to teach their sons that females deserve their respect but it apparently still fails with way too many of them. When you think of it, when a grown man howls out sexual insults to a young woman he doesn't even know, it's a form of bullying. I've never known a woman who takes catcalls as a compliment...it's too uncomfortable for that. And don't ever think the aggressor doesn't know it.
I've advised my granddaughters to ignore it unless it becomes too aggressive and then to call the police. It is much too dangerous for them to confront the harrasser, especially if a woman is alone. Confrontation probably would do no good, anyway, but just give the harrasser more time to play his games.
But we can change male attitudes like this, maybe not in a generation or two but it can be done. More males are now educated to understand that females were not put on this earth for their amusement but as human beings who deserve their respect. As these numbers grow and as these respectful males set examples for their friends, it really can change how society views women.
Females have been fighting for equality and respect since neanderthal man supposedly clubbed an unsubmissive female over the head and dragged her to his cave. It's scary to see how things haven't improved as much as we women had hoped.
As an elderly woman, I sometimes breathe a sigh of relief that this doesn't happen to me any more but then I realize that those same things are still happening to young women today and I feel sympathy, disgust, worry, and sadness that not much has changed in this world.
Most parents are able to teach their sons that females deserve their respect but it apparently still fails with way too many of them. When you think of it, when a grown man howls out sexual insults to a young woman he doesn't even know, it's a form of bullying. I've never known a woman who takes catcalls as a compliment...it's too uncomfortable for that. And don't ever think the aggressor doesn't know it.
I've advised my granddaughters to ignore it unless it becomes too aggressive and then to call the police. It is much too dangerous for them to confront the harrasser, especially if a woman is alone. Confrontation probably would do no good, anyway, but just give the harrasser more time to play his games.
But we can change male attitudes like this, maybe not in a generation or two but it can be done. More males are now educated to understand that females were not put on this earth for their amusement but as human beings who deserve their respect. As these numbers grow and as these respectful males set examples for their friends, it really can change how society views women.
Females have been fighting for equality and respect since neanderthal man supposedly clubbed an unsubmissive female over the head and dragged her to his cave. It's scary to see how things haven't improved as much as we women had hoped.
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