Not Lonesome Alone

Some people are so sociable that they can't be comfortable living by themselves. It's almost as though they can't value their own worth unless getting constant feedback from others and that's such a shame.

I think I'm a pretty sociable person and I'd hate having to live out my days on a desert island but my alone time is treasured. It's time that I can use at my leisure doing whatever comes to mind. I can watch what I want on T.V., play on the computer, or even hop in the car and head for the casino. My choice, my time. I can sing along to favorite songs without worrying about hurting someone else's ears or I can vegetate on the couch reading a book whenever I feel like it. And I can choose my own meal times. There are a lot of perks to living alone when you think about it.

When I'm at the park in Florida I have very little alone time and I admit I do love it. That's where my sociable side comes out because I'm surrounded by people all day, every day. I'm not sure I'd like to live all year round like that, though, because sometimes we need solitude. I enjoy writing this blog or just doing research on the internet and that is best done with no intrusions. It's also nice to be able to stay in your nightie until noon if you choose but I can't do that in Florida...too many visitors. And also too much fun activity to participate in so I don't mind one bit.

When I had depression I was lonely most of the time because my mind was so unsettled. If we're depressed, unhappiness settles hard when we're alone but can be tucked away when we're with the right people. I remember very clearly how it was when I was depressed and am ever so grateful for the frame of mind I enjoy these days. Today I think of alone time as selfish time for myself. It took that "attitude adjustment" I like to refer to as what changed my life.

Being alone occasionally can be a blessing if you choose to look at it that way. In fact, it might be a good idea to view your whole life like that. Choose happiness and it will come to you in one form or another. You will never pass this way again so enjoy each moment you can, whether it be alone or with others.