There are trillions of videos, some home made, to watch on Youtube and I've been watching a lot of them lately. You can watch full episodes of Dr. Phil without the commercials, too. Something that I've learned from watching these videos is how raising a child is an immense responsibility for the parents. They can either destroy any chance that child has to live a normal life or they can do their job as parents to teach the child how to live a successful life. I'm not saying that some kids don't go wrong even with the best upbringing or that some kids aren't able to rise above a poor one, though.
Our responsibility to do the best for our offspring is universal and it has to be one of the main reasons we exist at all. If we deliberately fail to be good parents by pure selfishness, we should be ashamed. Many of the videos I watched proved that good parents are selfless, giving up their own comforts for their children. On the other hand, too many of those videos were horror stories of how to be a bad parent.
My own mother wasn't a typical good parent. I always felt as though I was "tolerated" by her but that she didn't connect with me in any way. She obviously wasn't very interested in me but she didn't treat me cruelly, just impassively. It wasn't actually abuse but it had an everlasting effect on me. We most often learn our worth from our parents. Sometimes a child brought up to feel worthless is able to rise above their beginnings but I'd bet most don't. It's just been in my elder years that I've discovered my true worth and I'm pretty damned valuable.
Family is so very important but how you build your family is probably most important of all.
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