Domestic Abuse

Domestic abuse, like all other crimes, will probably always be with us but there are ways to lessen the chances.  If we taught our daughters (in the home, school, and by example) that they should never tolerate physical or emotional abuse by anyone, it would lower the instances of abuse and of murders.  If we taught our sons in the same ways that abuse of another living being is unacceptable, it would have the same effect.

Domestic abuse and domestic murder go hand in hand.  If a woman (usually, but sometimes a man) refuses to allow her mate to abuse her from day 1, then it most certainly will not escalate to full battery or murder,

Domestic abuse is not easily talked about by those involved in it.  Battered wives (sometimes husbands) are embarrassed or don't want to get their mate into trouble.  This is one big reason why an abused person has to stop it before it even gets started.  I've done a lot of research on the subject and understand it often takes great lengths of time before an abuser shows his/her true side.  They often woo their victim with love and kindness but become aggressive and demanding once they feel confident they can get away with it.  An abuser is really a weak and frightened human being.

Emotional abuse is usually more subtle and you might not recognize it as such until you're deeply involved in a relationship but it is never too late to stop accepting it as normal.  

Stand straight, respect yourself, and let your abuser know it can't happen again or you're walking away.  If the abuse continues, know that it will never stop and your life will be hell if you stay.

I wish it was as easily done as said but we have to keep trying to instill pride of self in our children.