Marriage Breakup

When a marriage breaks up there's no question who is hurt the most, not the devastated spouse but the children.  They lose their innocent security.  Every child should be able to count on their home to be a happy, stress free one with both parents working together to make it happen.  When children are torn out of a home life they thought would last forever, they become torn up inside and stop trusting the world around them.  They fear everything will be taken from them.  Who and what will be taken next??

Not many marriages are perfect and some can become unbearable for one spouse or another but, before they end a marriage, they should make damn sure that it isn't fixable.  I believe strongly that the children's needs are so important that even a not so perfect marriage should be held together at least until the children become adults.

I remember a workmate telling me she was going to leave her husband because she couldn't stand the sound of the spoon rattling in his coffee cup.  There was probably a whole lot more bothering her but she darned well should have known him better before marrying him.  In that case there were no children, thank heavens.

Sometimes the grass looks greener on the other side and a spouse will jump willy nilly out of a marriage to give it a try.  And then, sometimes the new, exciting life isn't what she/he thought it would be but the damage is already done to the children.  

So much is lost in a divorce.  Finances can never be enough to give both parents the same standard of living they had before separating and this, too, has a terrible effect on the children.

I guess the point I'm trying to make is that we should be very certain that the person we marry is the one we want to grow old with.  And also, if the marriage sours, be very certain it can't be made acceptable before tearing the children away from one of their parents and disrupting their whole lives.