Entitled

I watch Dr. Phil and just shake my head in wonder at the number of adult children who think their parents should support them.  Of course, it's very much the parents' fault to have raised their children to feel entitled.  And it's very much the parents' fault to put up with it.

We seldom heard of such a thing 30, 40, 50 years ago when most children were expected to finish school, get a job, and move out on their own but we're hearing more and more that even 30 year olds without jobs (they refuse to work for minimum wage) are still living at home and trashing their parents who support them.  What the hell happened?

These adult children feel entitled to the benefits of hard work their parents have put in their entire lives to accumulate.  The parents, feeling some kind of parental guilt, continue to perpetuate the destruction of their children.  This is truly destruction of a human being who hasn't learned how to support themselves and have pride in doing it.

In some cases, the adult child, acting like the spoiled brat he/she is, becomes physically abusive to his/her parents and they just throw up their hands and accept it.  It's true that this kind of behaviour didn't start overnight and the little monsters they've created began many years ago.

Children need direction, limits, and consequences for their actions no matter if the actions are good or bad.  When a little child is allowed to get away with bad behaviour, it only escalates over the years until they become entitled adult children who stay at home, won't work, and trash your house.  Poor parenting starts the ball rolling at the very beginning.

Good parents want their children to succeed in life so they groom the child for success.  Allowing them out of control behaviour and no consistent direction or expectations is going to produce a childlike adult who can't exist as an adult.