Healthy Attitude

One day many of us will be either a widow or a widower.  It's a matter of fact and the way we deal with it should be considered no matter how difficult it is to imagine.

It's understandable for a widow or widower to fall to pieces in the beginning of this journey but we should all aim for a healthier attitude.  Our lives can continue without our mates and they can be happy ones.  If our mates cared about us at all they would want us to gain strength and purpose to finish out our own lives in peace and happiness.

I'm a widow whose husband was the "doer" in our family.  When he passed away I discovered just how much he did around the house that I wasn't even aware of.  Those things still needed doing and I wasn't physically or mentally capable of doing it all so I found me a handyman.  Warning, ladies, a good and honest handyman/woman is not easy to find so you just might have to try a few before finding the one that is right for you.  I think the best option is to sell your house and move into an apartment or condo and then you don't have to worry about finding one at all.  My opinion only!

To a widow or widower...stay busy with hobbies, family, and friends.  The more people you socialize with, the quicker you'll come out of your grief and be able to function normally.  Grieving alone is a horribly debilitating state of mind.  

Feel comfortable to talk about your mate but don't dwell on him/her to the exclusion of other interests.  You'll need to rebuild the way you live your life but do it in small, purposeful steps.

Life has always been what you choose to make of it and being a widow or widower is no different.  Always choose to be happy and allow your grief to dissipate into fond memories.  You still have the rest of your life to live and it really can be a positive time.